New Hope Recovery Center is pleased to offer a new 8 week closed group for gay and bisexual men affected by cross addictions.
For those struggling with multiple addictions, sexual compulsivity, relationships issues and/or trauma, this group will provide tools to process shame, fear and anxiety and will offer insights into the barriers that can keep someone stuck.
This confidential closed 8 week group will meet Tuesday evenings 6pm-8pm from October 25, 2016 to December 13, 2016.
Contact New Hope Recovery Center at 773-883-3916 or email@example.com for more information and to register for the group.
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New Hope Recovery Center is located in Chicago and offers individualized alcohol and drug addiction treatment in a loving supportive environment. The New Hope with Pride Program focuses on the needs of LGBTQIA individuals. Contact New Hope Recovery Center at 888-707- 4673 (HOPE).
Jeff Zacharias, New Hope Recovery Center President and Clinical Director, recently spoke at the National Conference on Addiction Disorders (NCAD) on the Intersection of Sex, Drug and Technology.
Behavioral Healthcare Magazine summarized several main points of the talk to help clinicians when working with LGBTQI clients:
- Social Media is the new drug dealer with the GPS phone as the new corner spot
- Understand that most chem-sex clients have experienced trauma
- Trauma in the LGBTQI community often begins early in life
- Help the client feel safe and calm
You can request the Powerpoint of Jeff's talk but emailing firstname.lastname@example.org
New Hope Recovery Center and its New Hope with Pride Program have extensive experience working with the LGBTQI individuals and the community. For more information call 888-707-4673(HOPE) or email us at email@example.com.
Written by: New Hope Recovery Center
We previously discussed the first step in the process of coming out, self acceptance. Once someone accepts that they are in fact LGBTQ, they are then faced with a situation that no other group of people faces…how, when, where and to whom do they disclose their sexual orientation or gender identity? Most people in our society have a default setting which assumes the people around them are straight. This is an example of heterosexism and it is the reason an LGBTQ person constantly questions whether and when they should come out to those around them. Most people have numerous groups of people to come out to. There are friends to consider, co-workers, fellow students, family members, relatives, friends, and acquaintances and within each group there are subgroups. This can be overwhelming and stressful to think about. As we discussed previously, the stress an LGBTQ person faces around coming out can lead to heavy use of alcohol or drugs and addiction.
A person’s identity as LGBTQ begins to form before the decision is made to come out or not. The more developed someone is in their LGBTQ identity, the more likely they are to disclose themselves to others. Simply stated, the more comfortable someone is with their authentic self, the easier it is for them to come out to others.
Once someone accepts themselves as LGBTQ, remaining in the closet forces them to live a double life, hiding who they truly are and how they feel from other people. This secrecy is exhausting, stressful and lonely. A life of concealment keeps one from truly connecting to others, because no one knows the real you.
Stress and Risks of Coming Out
Feelings of shame often keep the LGBTQ person from sharing their true selves. They often hear that they are bad, or evil or unworthy. Fortunately, things are changing. Over 53% of Americans support marriage equality. But reading and hearing the daily news show that the acceptance is far from universal.
People may withhold the decision to come out to others because of the risk of rejection, fear of physical harm, discrimination, harassment, and a desire to protect loved ones from the stress of coming out. It is not a coincidence that many of the LGBTQ clients struggling with addiction also struggle with some aspect of coming out. Either they came out and faced one of the risks listed above, or they are frozen in fear that one of those risks might result if they were to tell others. It is very common to hear about people struggling with addiction who have compartmentalized their life in an effort to hide certain aspects about themselves from others because of shame.
Some project their own anxiety and shame onto their loved ones as a justification for not coming out to those loved ones. For example, my fear during my closeted years was always that others could not adjust to my uniqueness but really it was me who never gave myself a chance. As a result I developed a false self to live up to the perceived expectations of my family and society so I would not hurt myself or let others down. Yes there is a lot of risk associated with the very brave decision to come out but the other side has unlimited potential. Giving yourself the opportunity to be your unique, honest, and authentic self is one of the most empowering experiences you can do in your life. Coming out does not guarantee it but it provides the opportunity and there are people who are willing to help you reach that place of authenticity.
The Coming Out Process Never Ends
There is a myth about the coming out experience: that it is this milestone event and then after that the individual is in the clear. However, this is not the case and the decision to come out is a lifelong, almost daily process that LGBTQ individuals are faced with. Social contexts and an individual’s environment are constantly evolving and therefore decision whether or not to disclose one’s identity to others is constantly being made.
Even once one comes out to some people in a certain group, there is the stress of wondering who else in the group has been told. For example, coming out to close coworkers can lead one to wondering who those coworkers have told. There becomes an uneasy wondering of “do they know”. Because a person’s sexuality is only part of who they are, it would seem forced and strange to start every conversation with “By the way, I am gay”.
Pride Month is a time to raise awareness of the issues those in the LGBT community have and reach out to others who feel alone. Holding onto shame is a lonely place. Healing occurs from hearing other people’s experiences. New Hope Recovery Center offers the New Hope With Pride Program for those struggling with any aspect of addiction and LGBTQ-related stressors. For more information please visit our website New Hope Recovery Center, call us at 888-707-4673, or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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