New Hope Recovery Center Celebrates National Recovery Month.

addiction recovery tip

To inspire ourselves and others, we offer today's  Addiction Recovery tip.

Today's tip is:

Name one thing you are grateful for.  (Most people find it hard to stop at one, if so, name 3 things.)

You can contact New Hope Recovery Center at 888-707-4673 (HOPE) or info@new-hope-recovery.com.

 

We wish everyone a Happy, Healthy Recovery Month!

Written By: New Hope Recovery Center

“We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character”

addiction recovery changeAfter completing the Fifth Step with our sponsors, recognizing and disclosing the exact nature of our wrongs, a realization sets in: without changing our destructive behaviors we cannot experience the full benefits of the recovery program.  In Step Six, a sense of humility is developed in order to see ourselves more clearly.  We have seen the wrongs we have committed and how they have harmed ourselves and others when we acted out our defects of character.  We begin to see patterns to our behaviors and also realize that we are likely to act on the same defects repeatedly. As we continue with our addiction recovery, in Step Six we become entirely ready to have our defects of character removed, without reservations.  The concept of becoming entirely ready does not happen suddenly.  It is a process which can take the course of one’s lifetime.

We have to identify, recognize and accept our defects of character before we can be willing to have a power greater than ourselves remove them.

Step Six is a step of willingness and action that prepares us for a launch to a higher level of consciousness. “We found that the higher our drugs took us, the lower they brought us” NA Basic Text, Step Three, page 24 (Fourth Edition). In other words, the more intoxicated one gets, the more toxic one becomes.

A very important way to identify character defects is by being receptive to the constructive feedback of others, particularly when we offend them with our behaviors.

Here are some common examples of character defects:

  • anger
  • resentments
  • sarcasm
  • cynicism
  • false pride
  • self-pity
  • self-doubt
  • self-indulging
  • perfectionism
  • defiance
  • distrust
  • dishonesty

There will most likely be layers upon layers of negative behaviors that point to these defects.  “When working this step it is important to remember that we are human and should not place unrealistic expectations on ourselves,” NA Basic Text, page 33 fourth edition.

Reciting this prayer during times of despair or when it seems to be taking a long time to reach a desired goal can help sustain us and renewing our willingness to have our character defects removed.

Sixth Step Prayer

I am ready for Your help in removing from me the defects of character which I now realize are an obstacle to my recovery.  Help me to continue being honest with myself and guide me toward spiritual and mental health. 

New Hope Recovery Center, Chicago’s premier alcohol and drug addiction facility, offers treatment to those addicted to drugs or alcohol and their families.

If you or someone you love is affected by addiction, New Hope Recovery Center can help. Contact us at 773-883-3916 or info@new-hope-recovery.com.

Other articles on the 12 Steps:

Step 1 , Step 2 , Step 3, Step 4, Step 5

Written By: New Hope Recovery Center

September is Recovery Month.  To celebrate this month, and inspire ourselves and others, we offer daily Addiction Recovery tips.

Today's tip is:  Always remember to practice self care. Aim for 1 hour a day just for you - even if it is not done all at once

You can contact New Hope Recovery Center at 888-707-4673 (HOPE) or info@new-hope-recovery.comWe wish everyone a Happy Recovery Month!

Written By: New Hope Recovery Center

Addiction Recovery MonthSeptember is Recovery Month.  To celebrate this month, and inspire ourselves and others, we offer daily Addiction Recovery tips.

Today's tip is:

Make your own recovery the first priority in your life. Recovery is #1 - keep that thought at the top each day!

We wish everyone a Happy Recovery Month!

You can contact New Hope Recovery Center at 888-707-4673 (HOPE) or info@new-hope-recovery.com

Written By: New Hope Recovery Center

LGBT Family Acceptance ProjectRecent work by Caitlin Ryan, PhD, ACSW, Director of the Family Acceptance Project, shows that a family’s behavior and actions have long term impact on LGBT children and teens.  Her work has found that LGBT youth from loving, supportive families have drastically fewer suicide attempts and are much less likely to become addicted to drugs and alcohol.  Conversely, LGBT youth who were rejected by family suffer much higher rates of suicide and addiction.

According to the Family Acceptance Project research, there is a staggering difference between the health and wellbeing of LGBT youth who felt supported and those who felt rejected.  Gay and transgender teens who were highly rejected by their parents and caregivers were at very high risk for health and mental health problems when they become young adults (ages 21-25).

Let’s look at some of the findings:

Family Rejection Has Long-Lasting effects

Highly rejected young LGBT people were:

  • More than 8 times as likely to have attempted suicide
  • Nearly 6 times as likely to report high levels of depression
  • More than 3 times as likely to use illegal drugs, and
  • More than 3 times as likely to be at high risk for HIV and sexually transmitted diseases

Suicide Attempts:

Use of Illegal Drugs:

LGBT Addiction and rejection

These two images show the serious impact of high levels of family rejection on gay or transgender young adults.  Their parents tried to change who they were. Their parents or caregivers tried to prevent them from being gay or transgender. Or they showed their disappointment or shame in having a gay or transgender child in other ways.

So if you love your child, it is important that your entire family, friends and larger community (such as churches and schools) not subject your child to rejecting behavior, but instead show acceptance and support.  It is also important to stand up for your child and not allow others to reject, bully or act hostile toward your child.

What Behaviors Should a Family Avoid?

According to Dr. Ryan, families should avoid the following behaviors:

  • Hitting, slapping or physically hurting your child because of their LGBT identity
  • Verbal harassing or name-calling because of your child’s LGBT identity
  • Excluding LGBT youth from family and family activities
  • Blocking access to LGBT friends, events & resources
  • Blaming your child when they are discriminated against, harassed or bullied because of their LGBT identity
  • Pressuring your child to be more (or less) masculine or feminine
  • Telling your child that God will punish them because they are gay
  • Telling your child that you are ashamed of them or that how they look or act will shame the family
  • Making your child keep their LGBT identity a secret in the family and not letting them talk about it

What Behaviors Should a Family Embrace For the Long Term Health of Their LGBT Child?

Dr. Ryan found the following family behaviors enhanced the long term health and wellbeing of LGBT children and young adults:

  • Talking with your child or foster child about their LGBT identity
  • Expressing affection when your child tells you or when you learn that your child is gay or transgender
  • Supporting your child’s LGBT identity even though you may feel uncomfortable
  • Advocating for your child when he or she is mistreated because of their LGBT identity
  • Requiring that other family members respect your LGBT child
  • Bringing your child to LGBT organizations or events
  • Talking with clergy and helping your faith community to support LGBT people
  • Connecting your child with an LGBT adult role model to show them options for the future
  • Welcoming your child’s LGBT friends & partners to your home
  • Supporting your child’s gender expression
  • Believing your child can have a happy future as an LGBT adult
You can make a huge difference in an LGBT person's life, by showing them acceptance and demanding that others in their life do the same! 

Acts of acceptance, caring and support can have an enormous impact on an LGBT individual years after they reach adulthood.  LGBT young adults who felt accepted have a more positive future outlook.

LGBT acceptance and health

Please visit the Family Acceptance Project to learn more and to see how you can help LGBT youth in your life and in your area.  As you can see, the stakes are high with long term consequences.  Whether you are a family member or a concerned adult, showing acceptance and support can truly change someone’s life.   The sad statistics of LGBT homeless youth show that up to 40% of homeless youth are LGBT, even though it is estimated LGBT youth make up less than 10% of the population.  These young children and teens are often thrown out of their family homes and need support and acceptance from other than their families, or they will likely face serious lifelong physical and mental health issues.

Please do what you can to help.

Written By: New Hope Recovery Center