joy of recovery"We become happier, much happier, when we realize life is an opportunity rather than an obligation."  - Unknown

How often do we say we "have to", instead of we "get to"?  Anytime you say the words "I have to", catch yourself and say "I get to" instead.  Watch how that immediately shifts your viewpoint and attitude.


PS - Since this was posted many people have commented how effective this small change can be.  It really does shift your perspective and is so simple. Here is why I think it works: For our conscious mind there is little difference between "I have to" and "I get to", but to our subconscious mind there is a big difference. "I have to" means it is an obligation, a chore, we are forced to do it and have no choice. Without a choice, we are a VICTIM. Being a victim, we feel angry, resentful, trapped and depressed. "I get to" means we are privileged, allowed, even special. We not only get a choice, but we get our top choice that isn't often allowed or granted to everyone. (Think of kids who say "I get to stay up late!") So we go from being angry and resentful to feeling very grateful.

For example, something I hear often is "I have to go to work". Change that to "I get to go to work" and our subconscious mind works to make it true...soon we are thinking/realizing that there are many people who don't have a job and would love one, or who have a disability that keeps them from working. We think of how we are choosing to work where we work and we do have another choice...we can seek a job elsewhere. Very quickly we feel grateful for the opportunity to work where we work, or at least the opportunity to have the choice to keep working where we work. We even feel grateful for being able to work and to have a job, and to have the ability to look for another one. What a difference!


Written By: New Hope Recovery Center

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